Perfectly Normal Behaviour

Bear informs me that looking through people’s Facebook profiles is perfectly normal behaviour and that he does it all the time. Apparently he also goes through men’s profiles too, but as I’ve not seen that happen (and had I, the conversation would have been very different, had there even been a need for it in the first place) in the five months I’ve been observing him, I can’t say either way. I don’t go through people’s profiles and upon asking friends, have been informed they don’t either.

The profiles he goes through are people in the same Facebook ‘geek’ group as him, whose comments and photos interest him enough to check their profiles and photos for more interesting stuff. Innocent enough to my mind, except for the regularity of the profile checking, which he explained is because since he joined the group last March, he’s only been active on there for the past 5 months after an influx of Comic Convention photos of Marvel cosplayers back in the Summer.

Why he didn’t say that on Saturday night, instead of getting all defensive and looking guilty as sin as he told me he had no excuse for his behaviour, and then pretending like nothing had been said and dropping it like it wasn’t deserving of his attention, knowing that would piss me off even more and I’d really start to get suspicious is beyond me. He might be highly intelligent, but sometimes he’s completely clueless.

After 24 hours of him avoiding the issue and carrying on as normal, I blew.! Waiting until he got home I confronted him about it, asking if there was anything I had to be concerned about with his online behaviour.? He said there absolutely was not, and that he thought we’d sorted it all out on Saturday… When I explained that 5 months observing him checking out other women was not something you just sorted with flat out denial and avoidance of the issue, he realised that his behaviour had been somewhat concerning, and his reaction to my asking him about it, even more so.

Hence an apology, a hug and an agreement that next time I observed him doing something odd and asked him about it, a full explanation and reassurance that he wasn’t doing anything I needed to be concerned about would be forthcoming, rather than flat out denial.