It’s taken five months of watching Bear checking out women’s Facebook profiles for me to finally lose my shit.! Three times in one week is excessive, and while I don’t think he’s up to anything shady, his behaviour is a cause for concern. At first I thought nothing of it, she could well have been someone he knew, a work colleague, fellow college student, or political body, or a friend of a friend who’d made a witty comment on something, I know he likes to check out the humorous ones for more humorous content he might be able to use elsewhere.
After 3 months I started leaning more towards the WTF is he up to.? path of thinking. Every time I caught a glimpse of his ipad or iphone screen, there was a woman’s photo, or a whole batch of the same woman’s face in lots of photos with others, so he obviously was checking through her photos and information… but why.? There wasn’t a trend to it, the women were all different, mostly white, but an occasional ethnic woman would pop up, and he’d scroll through the posts, check out the photos and go back up to the profile photo.
He’s not the stalker type, and he’s not one to engage people in conversation first… so why is he checking out women. Did we have a problem he didn’t want to talk to me about.? We certainly had a problem, but how was I supposed to approach it without sounding accusatory or making him feel guilty for something that could well be innocent. He does have a track record for doing dumb shit that he thinks is acceptable though, even while in a relationship, eg. chatting to his ex-, loving her photos, making twee comments on her posts; putting his phone in his pocket when it beeps, and disappearing off to the toilet; maintaining the joint Facebook account he had with his ex-, and allowing her to have copies of photos I took of him.!
Yeah, he can on occasion be as dumb as a post, and a lot less communicative. Come Saturday night, having seen him checking out a redhead, after witnessing him checking out a dark haired woman on Wednesday, and a blonde the week before, I had a bit of a moment. “Why do I keep seeing you checking out women’s profiles on Facebook.?” I ask. And there it is… the stunned look that then is followed by an innocent look, and absolute denial… I’m an old hat at this, my kids used to pull the same BS when they’d done something they knew was sketchy…
“I’m not. Why would you think that.? Where has this come from.?”
Oh man…..
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